March 2, 2018

Two Styles of Mothering

Before my son was born I attended a ‘preparing for parenthood’ course with my husband. It strongly advocated ‘parent controlled feeding and sleeping’ or scheduled feeding. […]
March 2, 2018

The Working Mother

When I found I was pregnant with Sander I knew I had some decisions to make. What sort of work could I do that would allow me adequate time with my child and yet provide me with an income relative to my needs? I quickly decided to attend a teacher training course to teach at secondary school.  Deciding on which course to attend was dependant on the institute that would support me with my newborn. Auckland University allowed me to take my newborn (five week old) to all classes and lectures. It was, overall, a very good experience. I wasn’t comfortable breastfeeding in the class with my peers so I simply left and sat in an empty room. I was worried that perhaps the stress of the environment coupled with the impact of being a new mother might affect my breastfeeding but my worries were never realised. However I did feed Sander from one breast for the 20 months that I nursed him. He had completely rejected the left breast from about his second week of life. Fortunately, as I found out, one is as good as two and surprisingly no one ever noticed a lopsided look. But who would be looking anyway! When Sander was six weeks old I was on section (teaching placement). I had […]
March 2, 2018

Keeping Baby Close at Birth

“Because of health problems developing late in my pregnancy, I must be in hospital for the birth. I’ve read that having my baby as close as […]
March 2, 2018

Is Our Family Complete?

“I’m wondering how other mums ‘knew’ when their families were complete. We have two beautiful children. My husband says he’s perfectly content as a family of […]
March 2, 2018

I’m Returning to Work – How Did You Manage?

“I have a new baby and am planning to return to work at 14 weeks while my partner, Dave, stays at home with our son, James. […]
March 2, 2018

Fully Breastfeeding Amber after Latching-On Problems

Amber was born on New Years Eve 2001, at home, in the water under a beautiful, full­moon sky. Everything went as planned and Amber had her first breastfeed half an hour after birth. Amber and I bonded instantly and I knew that I wanted to breastfeed her as it was best for her health. It’s natural and comforting and what better way to show my baby how much I love her. I had read breastfeeding books and talked to my midwife, Heather, about feeding and thought that I was prepared. The first few days Amber fed quite well and I was starting to get the hang of it, Heather had explained to me that breastfeeding is a skill that has to be learned and that Amber and I were teaching each other. Around day three, things started to go wrong and I couldn’t latch Amber on properly, so my nipples were being grazed. The next day, when Heather came to see us she told me to make absolutely sure that Amber’s mouth was opening wide and to make sure she was getting enough breast in her mouth. She also said that if it hurt me, to take Amber off and try again, (and again and again…) until it didn’t hurt and felt comfortable. I found that every time Heather was present Amber would latch on well and we had really good […]
March 2, 2018

Childfree Wedding Invite

“A good friend of mine has invited my husband and me to her wedding in a few months’ time. The invitation, however, is not extended to […]
March 2, 2018

Breastfeeding with Inverted Nipples

Ten years ago it would not have seemed likely that I would have been involved with La Leche League today. I was bottle feeding my firstborn Madeline (albeit with expressed breast milk EBM) and slowly convincing myself that I was one of those poor women who could not breastfeed. I did write about my failed breastfeeding experience for the then New Beginnings (the forerunner of Aroha).  The conclusion I reached at the end of the article was that when you have a baby and wish to breastfeed, you must make breastfeeding top priority once your baby is born and until you and your baby have it ‘sussed’.  My problem was small flat nipples that became very cracked with my feeding attempts. I gave up and settled for pumping breast milk for my baby for six […]
March 2, 2018

Adjusting to a New Sibling, Open to Tandem Feeding

“I am expecting our second child in a few months.  I don’t know whether my two-year old will still be breastfeeding – he has shown less […]
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